If you are reading this article, it means that on some level, you are thinking about venturing back out into the world of dating after a loss, a divorce or a break up. Whether you realize it or not, this is a huge step forward and unfortunately, not enough people (possibly including you) recognize this as one of the “big moments” that it really is. You need to be very proud of yourself.
However, returning to dating (especially if you have been out of the “field” for awhile) carries with it a potential minefield of pitfalls that you will want to make sure to avoid. The following are common faux pas, blunders and missteps that many make and that you will want to steer clear of, particularly when you are in the early stages of dating someone new:
For the Ladies
For the Gentlemen
Don’t talk about yourself too much: There should be a comfortable conversation going on and conversing takes two people. If you feel like you are talking too much, your date likely feels the same way. Segue by saying, “That’s enough about me, let’s talk more about you…” and then follow with a question about them.
Don’t over-imbibe: Aside from obvious drinking-and-driving concerns, too much alcohol lowers inhibitions and pretty much eliminates common sense. You don’t want to say — or do — something that you will regret the following day. Limit yourself to two cocktails and then switch to non-alcoholic drinks.
Avoid the Biggest First-Date Taboo of Them All… No matter how attracted you are to someone; no matter how great the date is going or how beautifully you are getting along — do not have sex on the first date. Moreover, if someone is trying to pressure you into a sexual situation after knowing you all of two hours…run out the door (and think twice before ever going out with them again!). The only thing that a wonderful first date should lead to is a second date…not breakfast in bed the following morning.