10 Ways To Avoid Marrying The Wrong Person

Here are things you need to consider before walking down the aisle with your partner;



1) Do Not Marry Potential: 

Oftentimes men consider marrying a woman hoping she never changes while a woman considers marrying a man she hopes she can change.  This is the wrong approach on both accounts.  Don’t assume that you can change a person after you’re married to them or that they will reach their potential.  There is no guarantee, after all, that those changes will be for the better. In fact, it’s often for the worse. If you can’t accept someone or imagine living with them as they are then don’t marry them.  These differences can include a number of things such as ideological or practical differences in religion, habits, hygiene, communication skills, etc. Continue reading


3 Things Women Definitely Want From Men

Do you think women are inscrutable? Do you think they are extremely difficult to understand? Are you struggling to find out what she really is thinking and what she is all about? Don’t worry, you are not alone.

A woman can say a lot with her silence while sometimes a man can talk for hours yet say nothing. You need to listen very carefully to figure out what your girl is trying to say. It is not rocket science, its just that you need to be sensitive to her. Here are a few things that women look for in men. Read on and you will probably understand her better… Continue reading

4 Steps To Better Communication In a Relationship/Marriage

If you want your relationship to work, you have to communicate (and not just in the bedroom).

Being able to talk openly about how you feel and address any concerns you have, makes for a much stronger relationship. Check out our tips for communicating more effectively with your partner.



Taking time to listen to your partner means more than just nodding and smiling as they talk. Drop what you’re doing, make eye contact and give the other person your full attention. You can’t fully concentrate on what someone else is saying if you’re texting or checking email at the same time.


It’s so easy to get so caught up in the stress of everyday life that you never actually sit down and talk to your significant other. Rather than let too much time lapse between real conversations (i.e. about more than just who forgot to get groceries), set aside some time each day to talk. Head to a coffee shop or favorite pub so you’re out of the house; a fresh setting often stimulates conversation.


Good communication means your conversations aren’t one-sided. Really engage with your partner by asking questions that will help you understand how they’re feeling or what they’re trying to get across to you. Stumped on what to ask? Check out these conversation sparking questions:

  • What was the biggest challenge you faced this week?
  • What are you most proud of doing this year?
  • If you could give your 16-year old self one piece of advice, what would it be?
  • If you could trade lives with any celebrity for a day who would it be and why?
  • What would the perfect day consist of for you?
  • If you could go anywhere in the world for an all expenses paid dream vacation where would you go and why?


It can be frustrating to talk to someone who thinks they know everything about whatever it is you’re telling them. Good communication means listening and asking questions without taking over the conversation with your own opinions. It’s okay to offer advice, but it’s counterproductive to do all the talking… coming to you live and direct from your love doctor..VIVI

7 Interesting Ways Ladies Can Arouse Their Men

Has your sexual regime reached a dead end? Feeling bored? Follow our seven step sexual guide and feel your lost libido recharged … 

1. Change your sexual routine
Analyse your sexual regimen. Is it highly predictable? Is it more of a race to reach an orgasm? If so then perhaps you are in the midst of a sexual rut. So, get up and try breaking the sexual norm by doing the opposite of what you normally do. If you’re having sex in darkness, try it in the morning or in the afternoon. If you’re always getting down and dirty in the bedroom, enjoy a quickie on the kitchen counter or under the shower. If your man is always on top, surprise him by taking charge. Change your sexual POA to inject freshness into your sex life.

2. Show him the booty 
It’s not always a great idea to sashay around the house in sexy lingerie and killer heels if you want an instant arousal in your man. Why don’t you surprise him by doing the dusting totally naked wearing a sexy G-string or indulge in some sexy shopping together. Men are turned on by what they see – so show him.

3. Make enough time 

While sex is supposed to be spontaneous, unbridled passion, the pressure of jobs, children, and managing domestic chores leaves us with no time for sex. Try to give him hints that you are looking forward to a romp. Send suggestive and naughty texts and emails throughout the day. Spontaneity is a great mood builder and the anticipation and build up of something planned can be lots of fun.

4. Look back… 
Remember the early days when you were in the first throes of lust when it was hard to keep your hands of each other? Most couples remember their initial years with affectionate nostalgia, so try and recreate those memories. Plan a nice dinner, reminisce about the first time you saw each other, what attracted you initially, and your first date. Recall the sexual connection, the pet names, personal jokes. Put on some sensuous music and dance around your living room to the song you first danced to. Recreate the thrill of having sex by doing it somewhere you might get caught! You share a rich history, so indulge in it a little – those that do are the couples that stay connected.

5. It’s good to talk 

Never sleep with anger within you. The unwritten rule of a great relationship is to really talk. Be open and honest. Talk about things you don’t like in each other, irritating habbits. But remember to discuss the positive traits too – communicate what’s important in your relationship; simply talking about why you love each other can help keep the passion alive.

6. Retain the mystery 
A little bit of mystery adds spark to your love life. Sometimes when you are living with each other for years, you get too comfortable with each other and tend to be yourself with your partner. So keep the mystery alive and add some spice to your relationship.

7. Indulge your senses 
Turn your bedroom into an erotic boudoir by adding loads of silk, satin sheets and colours that make you feel sexy. Cook aphrodisiacal meals together with naughty ingredients that really s-excite the taste buds, or share a candlelit bath with fragrant bubbles and scented oils. Make the time to indulge your senses and you’ll soon your libido replenished.

“Ladies, a man will treat you the way you carry yourself” – Keri Hilson Quotes

Keri Hilson dishes relationship advice. She says if you want to attract a gentleman, keep it classy.

“I often wonder if more girls were willing to be ladies, more guys would feel challenged to be gentlemen.

Ladies don’t get it twisted. It DOES start with YOU!! Unfortunately, every man doesn’t possess some standard high amount of respect for every woman they encounter…just as every woman doesn’t exude the same amount of confidence, class, or self respect. This is not a perfect world, where men treat “hoes” with the same respect they give “ladies” just because their mother taught them well.

Bottom line is, a man will treat you according to the “messages” YOU put out there. That’s the way of the world…reality. If you exude sex, you will attract men who want that from you. If you exude self respect, you will attract the type of men who respect women. In this world, you attract what you exude. Ladies, WE set the tone!! NEVER forget that!! We have the power to change our experiences with men.”

Who agrees with her?

20 Signs He Is Definitely A Player

We’ve all been there. We’ve all wanted to believe that the guy we’re kinda into isn’t what he seems to be: a player. It’s easy to fall for a player – they’re always saying the right things at the right time. Players are often pretty irresistible, which why they behave the way they do.







In order to help you decide if your guy is a player, here are some things you should look for

1) He only texts you after 11 p.m. – and it’s always for a booty-call.

2) He doesn’t actually listen to you when you talk about anything going on in your life.

3) He doesn’t care if you’re having a bad day.

4) He’s not into hanging out with you – unless it’s a booty call.

5) He’s as smooth as butter – always saying the right thing at the right time.

6) You’ve never met his friends.

7) He’s not interested in meeting yours.

8) There’s only a 50-50 chance he’ll actually show up for anything you guys have planned to do.

9) He’s always got some excuse as to why he can’t meet up for dinner or a movie. But if it’s a booty-call, he’s all over it. Literally.

10) You’re not even sure he knows your number – you’re the one who has to call and text him.

11) He alludes to wanting a relationship — at least, he does until he’s gotten his rocks off. Then he’s out the door.

12) He’s overly confident – cocky, even. He knows he’s got game and he’s not afraid to use it to get what he wants.

13) He divides his time among a lot of chicks, so he’ll slip up sometimes and get bits of your life wrong (What do you mean you hate orange? It’s your favorite color!). Because he confuses you with other girls.

14) He’s never without his phone – even in the bathroom.

15) He has a couple of different phones.

16) He’s married but “separated.” Whenever you ask him about his divorce, he clams up or makes excuses as to why they’re still living together.

17) You’ve never been to his house: He comes to yours. If you ask about it, he’ll make up all kinds of excuses for why your place is better (his house is being fumigated, remodeled – anything).

18) There are no names alongside the numbers on his cell phone.

19) He never calls you by your name – just a pet name like “Baby.” This way, he can’t get it wrong.

20) All conversations with him have a sexual undertone.

So ladies, to be forewarned is to be forearmed…… goodluck gurls