10 Ways To Avoid Marrying The Wrong Person

Here are things you need to consider before walking down the aisle with your partner;

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1) Do Not Marry Potential: 

Oftentimes men consider marrying a woman hoping she never changes while a woman considers marrying a man she hopes she can change.  This is the wrong approach on both accounts.  Don’t assume that you can change a person after you’re married to them or that they will reach their potential.  There is no guarantee, after all, that those changes will be for the better. In fact, it’s often for the worse. If you can’t accept someone or imagine living with them as they are then don’t marry them.  These differences can include a number of things such as ideological or practical differences in religion, habits, hygiene, communication skills, etc. Continue reading

3 Things Women Definitely Want From Men

Do you think women are inscrutable? Do you think they are extremely difficult to understand? Are you struggling to find out what she really is thinking and what she is all about? Don’t worry, you are not alone.


A woman can say a lot with her silence while sometimes a man can talk for hours yet say nothing. You need to listen very carefully to figure out what your girl is trying to say. It is not rocket science, its just that you need to be sensitive to her. Here are a few things that women look for in men. Read on and you will probably understand her better… Continue reading

4 Steps To Better Communication In a Relationship/Marriage

If you want your relationship to work, you have to communicate (and not just in the bedroom).

Being able to talk openly about how you feel and address any concerns you have, makes for a much stronger relationship. Check out our tips for communicating more effectively with your partner.

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LISTEN TO EACH OTHER

Taking time to listen to your partner means more than just nodding and smiling as they talk. Drop what you’re doing, make eye contact and give the other person your full attention. You can’t fully concentrate on what someone else is saying if you’re texting or checking email at the same time.

SET ASIDE TIME TO TALK

It’s so easy to get so caught up in the stress of everyday life that you never actually sit down and talk to your significant other. Rather than let too much time lapse between real conversations (i.e. about more than just who forgot to get groceries), set aside some time each day to talk. Head to a coffee shop or favorite pub so you’re out of the house; a fresh setting often stimulates conversation.

BE SURE TO ASK QUESTIONS

Good communication means your conversations aren’t one-sided. Really engage with your partner by asking questions that will help you understand how they’re feeling or what they’re trying to get across to you. Stumped on what to ask? Check out these conversation sparking questions:

  • What was the biggest challenge you faced this week?
  • What are you most proud of doing this year?
  • If you could give your 16-year old self one piece of advice, what would it be?
  • If you could trade lives with any celebrity for a day who would it be and why?
  • What would the perfect day consist of for you?
  • If you could go anywhere in the world for an all expenses paid dream vacation where would you go and why?

DON’T BE A KNOW-IT-ALL

It can be frustrating to talk to someone who thinks they know everything about whatever it is you’re telling them. Good communication means listening and asking questions without taking over the conversation with your own opinions. It’s okay to offer advice, but it’s counterproductive to do all the talking… coming to you live and direct from your love doctor..VIVI

7 Interesting Ways Ladies Can Arouse Their Men

Has your sexual regime reached a dead end? Feeling bored? Follow our seven step sexual guide and feel your lost libido recharged … 


1. Change your sexual routine
Analyse your sexual regimen. Is it highly predictable? Is it more of a race to reach an orgasm? If so then perhaps you are in the midst of a sexual rut. So, get up and try breaking the sexual norm by doing the opposite of what you normally do. If you’re having sex in darkness, try it in the morning or in the afternoon. If you’re always getting down and dirty in the bedroom, enjoy a quickie on the kitchen counter or under the shower. If your man is always on top, surprise him by taking charge. Change your sexual POA to inject freshness into your sex life.

2. Show him the booty 
It’s not always a great idea to sashay around the house in sexy lingerie and killer heels if you want an instant arousal in your man. Why don’t you surprise him by doing the dusting totally naked wearing a sexy G-string or indulge in some sexy shopping together. Men are turned on by what they see – so show him.

3. Make enough time 

While sex is supposed to be spontaneous, unbridled passion, the pressure of jobs, children, and managing domestic chores leaves us with no time for sex. Try to give him hints that you are looking forward to a romp. Send suggestive and naughty texts and emails throughout the day. Spontaneity is a great mood builder and the anticipation and build up of something planned can be lots of fun.

4. Look back… 
Remember the early days when you were in the first throes of lust when it was hard to keep your hands of each other? Most couples remember their initial years with affectionate nostalgia, so try and recreate those memories. Plan a nice dinner, reminisce about the first time you saw each other, what attracted you initially, and your first date. Recall the sexual connection, the pet names, personal jokes. Put on some sensuous music and dance around your living room to the song you first danced to. Recreate the thrill of having sex by doing it somewhere you might get caught! You share a rich history, so indulge in it a little – those that do are the couples that stay connected.

5. It’s good to talk 

Never sleep with anger within you. The unwritten rule of a great relationship is to really talk. Be open and honest. Talk about things you don’t like in each other, irritating habbits. But remember to discuss the positive traits too – communicate what’s important in your relationship; simply talking about why you love each other can help keep the passion alive.

6. Retain the mystery 
A little bit of mystery adds spark to your love life. Sometimes when you are living with each other for years, you get too comfortable with each other and tend to be yourself with your partner. So keep the mystery alive and add some spice to your relationship.

7. Indulge your senses 
Turn your bedroom into an erotic boudoir by adding loads of silk, satin sheets and colours that make you feel sexy. Cook aphrodisiacal meals together with naughty ingredients that really s-excite the taste buds, or share a candlelit bath with fragrant bubbles and scented oils. Make the time to indulge your senses and you’ll soon your libido replenished.

8 Ways To Keep The Love Alive In A Relationship

Follow these tips to make sure the love in your relationship always stays fresh:

1) Focus on what you like about your partner.

If you want to succeed in a relationship of any kind, you have to be ready to focus on your partner’s good sides. Focusing on the negative will frustrate the both of you and make you tired of each other.

2) Be prepared to give more than you get.

Love is about sometimes giving more than you get. You should be more interested in adding value to your partner’s life than getting anything for yourself. If both of you have this attitude, then you’ll definitely be happy.

3) Be affectionate.

Don’t stop showing your partner love and care. Don’t think “But she/he knows I love her/him”. He/she cannot read your mind and everyone likes to be reminded that they’re loved once in a while.

4) Be ready to apologise.

If you want to make a relationship work, then saying sorry must come easy to you. Sometimes, for the sake of peace, you’ll have to say sorry, even when you are not the one who did wrong.

5) Don’t keep grudges.

Keeping grudges is one of the sure ways to kill the love in a relationship. No matter what happens, make sure you settle all arguments and disagreements quickly.

6) Maintain a sense of humour.

Don’t forget to laugh and make your partner laugh. Life is too short to be with someone you can’t laugh with.

7) Say thank you regularly.

Never take anything your partner does for you for granted. Everyone deserves to be appreciated. It makes them willing to keep making you happy.

8) Count your blessings.

Always be grateful for your own unique love. Never compare it with any other relationship. Quite alright, it could be better, but it could also be worse.

9 Reasons Why Some Nigerian Ladies May End Up Single For Life…..

1. Many African ladies will end up singles for life because of media exposure – it is so disheartening how a lady will glue her eyes on a mobile phone from morning to night, only to raise it up to focus on television to watch another celebrity entertainment channel. Tell, what else will dominate this lady’s mindset aside how to live a fake celebrity life being promoted on television channels?

2. Many African ladies now dislike cooking and home chores just because they had been totally brainwashed by movies showcasing men playing the role of women in a family, and due to excessive exposure to modern media that promotes gender-equality in a destructive way that’s aimed at destroying the unique African family setting that made our previous African marriages everlasting and envious to the westerns. Now, with this attitude, how do you expect a African man to desire to marry when he knows he is only buying more headache and trouble than helper for himself?

3. Excessive makeup turns most decent and serious-minded men off- if you have observed, you will discover that most men dislike excessive makeup, and more don’t even like it at all; reason they often times discourage their true loved ones to do away with it cos it speaks ill of a lady even though so many men will applaud and complement you for looking like an Egyptian mummy. A slight makeup is okay; but if you are out for marriage, try always to look simple and natural, it will attract better men, decent and serious-minded, except you are still living in your high school life and not thinking towards marriage.

4. Stop Giving Your Number Out To Every Joystick & Harry! No man would want to propose marriage to a lady whose phone is always talking and laughing with unserious calls. You may not be a playgirl, but he would judge you as one, and will likely flee at the slightest chance or disagreement.

5. You Don’t Bring Any Value Into The Life Of Men You Date or Are Dating- because your best friend married without contributing anything to the man that finally married her, doesn’t mean it will work for you that way. Think, work towards equipping yourself so that you can be a value and also add value to his life to convince him that you are worth committing to. Adding value to his life isn’t by giving him money, or material gifts, nope….good counsels, being his best friend, helping him attain his goals in life, lending him moral, mental and spiritual support, and by not just being a liability that only bring requests and problems to be solved.

6. Your Friends Run Your Life- how do you expect to find a husband when you still allow your clique of friends to be dictating which man you meet is worthy of your love and which is not? When will you wake up and face the fact that those your best friends even though they cherish you, wouldn’t want you to marry before them or to marry the best man?

7. You Give Everything Out During Dating- As a single lady who has not been taken to the altar, you need to reserve some things for your husband to be, especially your body, respect it and preserve it at all cost. In the past, men rushed to marry to get certain things or privileges they had been constantly denied while being single. Such privileges include and not limited to: constant s*x and companionship, good food and tidied home, etc. But today, a single man gets even the best and of course more of constant s*x, good food and excellent home-keeping more than his married counterparts, so tell me how the hell you want him to desire to marry you when you have given him virtually everything he desires from a wife while being his girlfriend? And the most painful part of it all is that he knows that you are prepared to cut down on s*x supply, cooking, home-keeping, etc once he marries you, so why would he not want you to remain his girlfriend for life?

8. You Package Yourself Wrongly- in your attempt to look sexy, adorable and maybe appealing to guys, you have derailed from appealing to appalling. In fact you look more whorish than modest; more distractive than attractive, and more disgusting than adorable. Your dressing style determines who gets attracted to you most times. If you dress high school, only high school-thinking guys will be attracted to you, and if you dress excessively sexy and provocative, only randy men will come to you for urgent satisfaction of their immediate s*x urge, so don’t be fooled by media hyping of certain kinds of dressing, they are meant for certain set of ladies you wouldn’t like to be associated with, be careful. Remember, not all clothes that look sexy are good for a seriously searching for a soul mate single lady.

9. You Lack Manner, Character, Wisdom and Good Home Upbringing- definitely, your ‘hot girl’, ‘pretty girl’, ‘sexy girl’ looks will win you so many men; both the good, and the bad, but your inner beauty, your character and manner are the things that will determine whether any of those men would stay or run after accomplishing their evil missions. In order words, do away with nagging, being possessive, challenging with men in negative ways, the mentality of ‘what a man can do a woman can do better’, a lie devil has used to deceive and destroy so many ladies today, please do away with it.